My husband and I have always kind of struggled with friendships.
And not only that, we thoroughly enjoy meeting people and getting to hear a piece of their story. We are total extroverts
The thing is, I kinda think this hurts us in the deep friendships department. I know that sounds weird but hear me out.
At this year's Influence Conference Shauna Niequist said something that I buried deep down in my heart because I kinda didn't want to unpack it yet. In talking about her supper club she said something along the lines of "The only way to really truly get close with people is to log the hours. You have to really do life together". (Gosh I wish I had her actual quote- do any of y'all have it?)
This is a really weird concept to me. Sure, my husband and I log the hours... but never with the same people. We have our police friends, our online friends, our neighbor friends, friends from our new church, friends from old churches and old small groups, friends from playgroups, family friends, friends from work, friends from back home, our kid's friend's parents, friends we met in China, friends we met on vacation. And we really love these people. Really love them
But I wonder how many of these people would consider us friends and not just acquaintances? I've joked before on here about how I love to make dinner for people and kind of have a set menu when we have a new couple over. But how many couples make it past that first dinner? And how many of my daytime mommy friends make it to that first dinner at all?
Honestly, not that many. And not because we don't totally enjoy them and our time with them
|Savannah and Ali|
I'm not sure really what I think of all this. Part of me thinks our friendships are this way because we aren't from around here. A lot of people already have their friend groups that they've grown up with, and although a few people befriend us, they're primary friends remain the same. Part of me thinks its because its a weird and awkward thing to make friends in your late 20's
can I get an amen? I'm also not super sure what to do about all this. Do we just keep hanging out with all the people? Do we love on everyone but really try to log the hours with just a few?
What do y'all do? Do you have a core group of friends that you log the hours with? Do you spread you spread your time out with different friend groups? Do you do something different altogether?
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